Trying to navigate your way through the world of dating NZ when you're gay can be a real challenge.
I know I've had my struggles with this over the years, and become frustrated with the club scene where most participants are only interested in one thing, not sticking around long enough to form a real relationship. There's nothing wrong with doing that for a while when you're finding yourself, but after some time you're going to want to settle down. I've found online dating to be much more effective for finding this sort of partner.
And if you start to get bored, don't stray - just spice things up. Try bringing some adult entertainment into the picture - the best strippers Tauranga would be a good place to start.